The Am I Codependent Test: 15 Questions

Answer the following questions honestly. For each question, choose the response that feels most true to you:

1. Do you feel responsible for other people’s emotions?

• A) Always—it’s my job to make everyone happy.
• B) Sometimes—I try to help, but it’s not always easy.
• C) Rarely—everyone is responsible for their own feelings.

2. Do you struggle to say no?

• A) Yes—I hate letting people down.
• B) Sometimes—it depends on the situation.
• C) No—I’ve learned how to set boundaries.

3. Do you often put your needs last?

• A) Always—other people come first.
• B) Sometimes—I try to balance it.
• C) Rarely—I prioritize my needs too.

4. Do you feel anxious when someone is upset with you?

• A) Yes—it’s unbearable.
• B) Sometimes—it depends on the relationship.
• C) No—I can handle it.

5. Do you avoid conflict at all costs?

• A) Yes—I’ll do anything to keep the peace.
• B) Sometimes—it depends on the situation.
• C) No—I’m okay with healthy disagreements.

6. Do you feel like you’re always the one giving in your relationships?

• A) Yes—I rarely feel supported.
• B) Sometimes—it’s a mix.
• C) No—my relationships feel balanced.

7. Do you feel guilty when you take time for yourself?

• A) Always—I feel selfish.
• B) Sometimes—but I’m working on it.
• C) Rarely—self-care is important.

8. Do you find it hard to ask for help?

• A) Yes—I don’t want to burden anyone.
• B) Sometimes—it depends on the situation.
• C) No—I’m comfortable asking for support.

9. Do you struggle to express your feelings?

• A) Yes—I’m afraid of being judged or rejected.
• B) Sometimes—it depends on the person.
• C) No—I’m open about my emotions.

10. Do you often feel drained after interacting with others?

• A) Yes—I give too much of myself.
• B) Sometimes—it depends on the interaction.
• C) No—I usually feel fine.

11. Do you stay in unhealthy relationships out of fear of being alone?

• A) Yes—I’m afraid of being abandoned.
• B) Sometimes—it’s complicated.
• C) No—I value my independence.

12. Do you feel the need to control situations to avoid problems?

• A) Yes—I feel like it’s my responsibility.
• B) Sometimes—it depends on the situation.
• C) No—I trust things will work out.

13. Do you believe your worth is tied to how much you do for others?

• A) Yes—I feel valuable when I’m helping.
• B) Sometimes—it’s a work in progress.
• C) No—I know my worth isn’t dependent on others.

14. Do you often feel resentment toward others for not reciprocating?

• A) Yes—I feel unappreciated.
• B) Sometimes—but I try to address it.
• C) No—I focus on what I can control.

15. Do you feel like your happiness depends on someone else?

• A) Yes—I struggle to be happy on my own.
• B) Sometimes—but I’m working on it.
• C) No—I find happiness within myself.

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Scoring the Am I Codependent Test

Tally your responses to determine your result:

• Mostly A’s: You may be experiencing significant codependent tendencies. Reflect on how these patterns impact your relationships and consider seeking support to foster healthier dynamics.
• Mostly B’s: You’re showing some signs of codependency but also have healthy boundaries in place. Keep working on balancing your needs with those of others.
• Mostly C’s: You demonstrate strong independence and boundaries. Continue nurturing these habits to maintain healthy relationships.